Bismillah Ir-Rahmaan
Ir-Raheem
Asalaam 'Alaikum,
First of all, please
keep in mind that my
children are only 3 and
1 - so nothing was
really elaborate - but I
put this board together
as a way for us to start
discussions on the
different topics and
also as a reminder of
projects, crafts, etc.,
we need to do related to
each topic, insha'Allah.
The board is divided
into the following six
sections:
1. Fasting
2. Prayer
3. Dua
4. Charity
5. Qur'an
6. Self Improvement
1. For the fasting
portion of the board, we
just have a nice written
statement about
Fasting. As far as what
we have done regarding
fasting - I have mostly
spent the time
explaining to my
daughter about Fasting -
why we fast, etc. Also,
every morning I wake the
children to eat Suhoor
with me and also, when I
break fast I also have
my daughters come and
'break fast' to feel
more connected with
Rammadan. My daughter
still does not really
understand what Fasting
is. Now, when I ask her
to eat something that
she doesn't want, she
says "No, I'm fasting."
If we break fast at the
mosque and she doesn't
want to eat because she
wants to play with the
other kids, she says
"No, I'm fasting."
Perhaps your children
also did this? I've
tried to explain it to
her - but she is very
limited in understanding
of this topic - although
I still believe she has
benefitted from our
discussions and perhaps
it will make her more
aware as she gets older,
insha'Allah.
2. For the prayer
portion of the board -
we just have a simple
poster of the different
positions during
prayer. This is really
just a visual that we
have used, however, the
most important thing we
have done to teach this
"topic" is to be a good
example to her.
Whenever I have prayed -
I ask her to join me and
she also sees me making
Taraweeh prayers. This
has sparked some
interest - and often,
throughout the day you
can find her stopping
what she is doing,
puttin on her hijab and
making the motions of
prayer.
As an idea presented in
another group, I also
created small cards with
all the wudhu stages
printed on each card.
THen, I show her each
card and we try to put
them in the proper order
(from beginning to
end). This is more for
reinforcement - I'm not
expecting her to
memorize it or
anything. Then, she
always watches while I
make wudhu - we have
double sinks in our
bathroom and sometimes
she will be at the other
sink trying to copy the
motions.
Right now we are
learning about the
mosque and we have been
starting to take her
more regularly to the
mosque. Also - we are
working on coloring
pictures of mosques and
decorating other
pictures of mosques with
glitter, beans, rice,
etc.
As side items, I am
trying to teach her not
to walk in front of
someone when they pray,
not to speak to someone
when they are praying,
not to push, shove, etc.
a praying person - yes,
she can get rather
physical with Dad as he
is praying (He plays
rougher with them than I
do).
3. For the dua section
of the board, we posted
different duas you can
make for different
occasions. Also,
throughout the house I
have posted different
duas for different
occasions - such as
entering the bathroom,
etc. I hadn't done this
previously as I really
wanted to post them in
Arabic with the English
meaning and I didn't
have access to the
Arabic text. Each time
before she enters the
bathroom or we leave the
house I ask her to
recite the dua after me
and then I explain to
her what the dua means
and why we say it. I
also carry around with
me my little dua book
and (for example) before
we drive off in the car,
we recite the dua for
mounting your means of
transport. I have her
recite it with me
word-for-word and then I
will tell her what it
means and why we said
it. She finds this
rather interesting,
although she hasn't
memorized anything yet.
4. For the charity
section of the board, we
made "Sadiqah's Helping
Hands". First we
discussed how you can
help people every day -
then I asked her to come
up with ways that she
can help others. So,
after making the hands
booklet (she colored
it), I printed on each
page something that she
could do to help another
person. Since this
discussion, I have
actually seen her doing
some of these things
more than normal,
masha'Allah. When we
have had the
opportunity, I try to
discuss with her that
some people are not as
fortunate as we are -
they may not have a
home, they may not have
food to eat and that
Allah is pleased when we
try to share what He has
given us with those who
are less fortunate.
5. For the Qur'an
section of the board, we
have posted the surahs
that we are trying to
learn - Al-Fatiha, An-Nas,
Al-Falaq and Al-Ikhlas.
She often says bits and
pieces of these but has
yet memorized them and
recited them without
prompting. She likes to
"pretend" she is saying
these as she prays. I
also make a habit of
making sure she is
around when I pray aloud
so that she can hear the
words. We have a
program on the computer
that also has Qur'an
recitation that we use
together. At this
point, she realizes that
the Qur'an is special
and whenever she sees
any book written in
Arabic she believes it
is a Qur'an and starts
to recite surahs in bits
and pieces as she
remembers them (as
though she is reading).
Also, every evening I
put the Qur'an on in
their room before they
go to sleep - she feels
comforted by listening
to the Qur'an before she
sleeps and always
reminds me if I forget
to turn it on,
masha'Allah.
6. For the Self
Improvement section of
the board - we have
posted things that one
should do to be nice to
others. Some of these
items were things that
she specifically needed
to practice (sharing -
definitely!) I actually
asked her to list some
ways that a person can
be nice to others -
these were written on
the smaller piece of
paper:
a. GOOD DEEDS WE SHOULD
DO MORE OF
b. BAD DEEDS WE SHOULD
STOP DOING
c. YOUR FAVORITE GOOD
DEEDS
I also try to remember
when I see her doing
things (either good or
bad, but especially
positive reinforcement)
that I tell her "Allah
is pleased when you do
..." or "Allah does not
like it when you ..."
I'm hoping this will
help her be more aware.
I also found a book of
virtues - a book that
has different stories
covering a certain good
or bad behavior (and its
consequence) and have
used these as a way to
start a discussion about
these behaviors. This
has worked well also.
Anyway - these are some
of the things we are
doing so far. Since she
is still young and she
is somewhat limited in
understanding due to her
age - I started to work
on other topics that I
felt were important such
as Tawheed (and I mean
this on her level of
understanding). I found
some nice books at the
library (they were
Christian books but they
only mentioned God and
not Isa (as) and they
only focus on Allah's
creation) - I have used
these to help her
understand more about
Allah and being a Muslim
(what we believe). She
absolutely loves these
books - they just say
things like "God created
the earth . . ." etc.
Now, alhumdulilah,
whenever I see a bird in
the sky - I say
"Masha'Allah look at
that beautiful bird - do
you know who created
that bird?" and
Alhumdulilah - she now
answers with certainty
'Allah'.
Well - I hope this has
made the pictures make
more sense to you.
Asalaam 'Alaikum,
Sumayyah Umm Sadiqah wa
Asma